What is adult ADHD support really about?

Adult ADHD support is less about fixing the brain and more about creating environments that suit how ADHD brains function best. It focuses on understanding patterns, building insight, and adapting tasks and systems to reduce struggle.

Does adult ADHD mean I’m broken?

Not at all. Many people with ADHD thrive in the right context. The problem often lies in environments that reward stillness and delayed gratification, which may not align with how ADHD brains are wired to operate.

Is this approach supported by research?

Yes. Studies in neurodiversity, executive function, and cognitive science show that when adults with ADHD are supported with autonomy, structure, and interest-driven tasks, performance and wellbeing significantly improve.

ADHD Support - What If Your ADHD Isn't the Problem?

Matthew Hallam
2 days ago
3 min read

Is it possible that ADHD isn't the problem, but rather how the world expects us to operate?

Yes and that reframing changes everything.

One of the first things I explore with someone in need of ADHD support: What if the issue isn’t their brain, but the demands they’re trying to meet?

ADHD is usually framed as a deficit or disorder. But in my experience, many of the difficulties people face don’t actually stem from ADHD itself. They come from trying to force a brain that thrives on novelty, movement, interest, or urgency to perform in environments that reward stillness, repetition, and delayed gratification.

You’re not broken. Your context is probably incompatible.

But don’t the symptoms still cause problems?

Absolutely. ADHD can be distressing and disruptive, especially when you don’t understand what’s driving your patterns.

For example, it might look like procrastination. But what’s really happening is that your brain isn’t receiving enough stimulation to activate the task. This aligns with the cognitive-energetic model of ADHD, which suggests that under-arousal contributes to task initiation difficulties (Sergeant, 2000).

Or it might look like laziness, when in reality your nervous system is in shutdown from burnout or overwhelm.

And sometimes, people are so aware of their difficulties that they end up stuck in a loop of overthinking and self-judgment. Reflection without structure can make things worse. That’s why I believe the first step is noticing without blame — a skill in itself.

When we stop blaming the person and start understanding the process, new possibilities open up.

So how should I be thinking about my ADHD?

Think less about "fixing" your ADHD and more about understanding how your brain works. Then ask: How can I shape my environment to suit it?

That might mean adjusting your workflow, adding movement into your day, working in bursts, or using visual cues to support memory. It might mean scheduling tasks around your energy rhythms or creating systems that support object permanence.

And sometimes, it means unlearning shame, not skills.

Because when you work with your brain instead of against it, you’re no longer stuck in a cycle of self-blame. You’re designing a life that actually works for you — one that’s sustainable, not just survivable.

Is this approach evidence-based?

Yes. Research in neurodiversity, occupational psychology, and cognitive neuroscience supports the idea that environmental fit plays a huge role in functioning. For example, Barkley (2010) notes that individuals with ADHD show improved functioning when tasks are intrinsically motivating or provide immediate feedback. Autonomy-supportive environments have also been linked to reduced executive dysfunction (Deci & Ryan, 2008; Brown, 2013).

In other words: When the environment shifts, so does the struggle.

Final Thought:

You don’t need to change everything about yourself to function better. You need to understand yourself better, so you can change the things that matter.

That’s what I’ve seen make the biggest difference: not effort, but fit. Not more grit, but more insight.

And that’s where real progress begins.

References:

Barkley, R. A. (2010). Taking Charge of Adult ADHD. Guilford Press.
Brown, T. E. (2013). A New Understanding of ADHD in Children and Adults: Executive Function Impairments. Routledge.
Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2008). Facilitating optimal motivation and psychological well-being across life’s domains. Canadian Psychology, 49(1), 14–23.
Sergeant, J. A. (2000). The cognitive-energetic model: An empirical approach to attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder. Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews, 24(1), 7–12.

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